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Inside Winter 2009 Issue:
Beautifully printed in full color!
Big Baby Steps
Tools to Help your Whiny, Self-centered, Immature Mate Become an Adult
It's adorable when a baby pouts his way through stressful situations, but when
your partner does the same thing, it's incredibly frustrating. Though
narcissistic behavior is common in young children, most of us learn to
compromise and consider other people's feelings as we get older. Some though,
slip through the cracks and grow up to be immature, self-absorbed adults. If
you're married to someone who still treats himself as the center of the
universe, you can end up feeling bitter, angry and frustrated if you don't act
to change the situation…Like
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Why Weight?
The Truth about Packing On the Pounds
Are you sick and tired of struggling with food? Life is too short to be hassling
with your weight! Weight gain is as simple as increased calories ingested and
decreased calories burned. Yeah, right! That statement doesn't take into
consideration many real life issues that keep the pounds packing on – issues
like how you feel about yourself, unresolved childhood hurts, how your family
treats you, a deep rejection, a dead-end job, or a dull, boring routine. The
reality for many is that the ups and downs of the scale are about how we react
to the ups and downs of life…Like
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Quirkology l0l
Living with Life's Little Oddities in Others
"And that's when I shot her, your Honor," my husband says, when he's annoyed
with one of my many quirks that drive him crazy. Quirks. We all have them.
Yet, we tend to think of quirks as being those odd habits, strange mannerisms,
or annoying behaviors that we observe in other people…Like
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Beware the Underminer
Handling People who Casually Try to Ruin Your Life
It doesn't sound like a put-down when your old friend teases you about your new
haircut, but later that night, you're still thinking about how she said you had
to be really brave to pull off a haircut like that at your weight. You've always
thought your co-worker was really nice, but now that you're both up for the same
promotion, he seems determined to criticize your ideas as loudly and as often as
he can. You may not realize it, but you're dealing with an underminer, a person
who seems both helpful and harmless but who really thrives on making you feel
bad about yourself…Like
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Dumped!
Getting Over Getting Dumped
When Sherry arrived home from work, her live-in boyfriend of four years, Greg,
greeted her with a kiss on the cheek and a dinner invitation. Sherry knew
instinctively that something was wrong. Greg had been cold and distant lately,
plus he never wanted to go out to a restaurant. Over a glass of wine, he said
the words a lover dreads to hear: "It's time for us to move on. I'm not in love
with you anymore."
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Running from Love
Understanding the Hidden Fears of Intimacy
If you visit an online matchmaking service, you'll find everyone roaming around
looking for love. But some people are just the opposite. Some are skittering
around looking for an escape hatch at the very thought of being close to
someone. Are you attracted to a love runner?...Like
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Are you Rubber or Glue?
Understanding the Hidden Fears of Intimacy
"I'm rubber, you're glue, whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you!"
That old playground taunt is usually reserved for kids warding off bullies, but
its wisdom can be applied by anyone. No matter what your age, if you refuse to
take insults and negativity on board, you'll be immune to a great deal of stress
and frustration...Like
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Half a Mind
Right Brain VS. Left Brain
Do you know someone to whom you just can't relate? They're the one who thinks
so differently than you do. In fact, the way they go through life irritates
you. Maybe you're neat and organized, and they're slightly scattered and
messy. Or they are forever late and you are always on time. Maybe you can't
put things into words and they constantly tell you to just spit it out. No,
we're not talking about men and women, Mars and Venus. We're talking about
which side of your brain dominates and rules your life…Like
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Shame Off You
Four Steps to shame-free living
Nobody wants to feel ashamed, but most of us do at one time or another. We all
know what shame feels like, but not many of us know anything about overcoming
it. It is possible to get the shame off, and you can start by…Like
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Bam! Bang! Boom!
When a Loved One Explodes from Anger
Sarah jumped out of the chair where she was sitting and reading a magazine. Her
husband, Joseph, had just thrown his new computer across the room, causing it to
put a hole in the wall and sending shards of plastic and hardware flying.
Sarah's had only asked him to go and check on their sons who were upstairs
playing video games. What would make Joseph explode with such anger?...Like
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Goodbye Friend
Coping with the loss of a beloved pet
Animals are great friends. They make no criticisms, pass no judgments, and ask
no questions. These kindly critters don't care how we look or what we do for a
living. They don't point out our shortcomings. They're not jealous of our
successes. Pets accept us just as we are, in all our magnificence, and all our
messiness. Coping with their loss…Like
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The Black Hole
Making the Best of a Ho-Hum Job
Matthew wasn't sure when exactly it happened, but in the past few months, he
felt trapped in every area of his life. There was nothing new except, it
seemed, more stress. Tallying
up, he realized that he and his wife spoke no more than 25 words a day to one
another, unless there was an argument. His job seemed to have turned into a
24-hour commitment. He had missed three of his son's five baseball games, and
two of the ones he did attend were spent fielding phone calls from clients.
Rush hour consumed one frustrating hour each morning and one tiresome hour each
evening. This entire scenario can be turned around by…Like
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Nag-aholics
Breaking free from the Nag trap
Are you at your wit’s end with your spouse or kids? Are you forced to hound
your loved ones, just to get anything done? Do you wonder what the heck it's
going to take for them to get it? No matter what the subject, saying the same
thing over and over and over again is nagging. To break free from this trap…Like
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You, the Guru
Designing Your Own "Happy Living" Program
After a 12-hour day at the office, rushing from one frustrating meeting to
another, all while dealing with exasperating co-workers and an over-demanding
boss, you get in your car and drive the 90-minute commute home on a jam-packed
freeway. You arrive home at 9 pm, where you unwind for a few hours before
crashing into your bed. It's an exhausting life, but hey, you're a fairly
successful and happy, right? To find happiness on a deeper level, you’ll need
to…Like
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Dating 101
The Second Time Around
You didn't mean for it to happen. It certainly wasn't intentional. Because of
death, divorce, or an extended break, you haven't been wading around in the
dating pool for awhile. And, since you last donned your swimmies and your
bathing cap, you fear that things have changed a lot...Like
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Buried Alive
Finding Peace When Your Possessions Overwhelm You
Mary has an embarrassing secret. To hide it, she keeps heavy drapes drawn over
the windows in her house. She comes and goes through the back door so the
neighbors can't see inside.
Mary's house is
crammed wall-to-wall with furniture, bric-a-brac, photos, and stacks, piles and
bags of stuff. Despite her good job and fine education, Mary is ashamed to
admit that she is a hoarder…Like
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The Science of Influence
How to Get Anyone to Say Yes!
Do you want outstanding success in life? You'll achieve your goals when you can
influence others to agree with you and to act upon your requests. Any request.
Successful people get things done with and through others. They get decisions
and results with just one skill: the power of persuasion. Persuaders rule. They
have enormous power. They accomplish their wildest dreams for wealth, power, and
influence. Persuasion is critical to success. Scientifically, what do we know
today about persuasion that we didn't know before? A lot…Like
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Vacation Survival Tactics
How to Travel with your Spouse and Not Kill each other
Many things can destroy a well-planned vacation. Bad weather. A lost passport.
Montezuma's revenge. Or, worst of all... all that togetherness. That fun-filled
vacation can be more stressful than everyday life, as all the distractions of
work and family obligations fall away, and couples are left with just each
other…Like
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As a Man Thinketh
Classic Self Help Series
Originally published in 1902, Allen's book is largely deemed instrumental in the
creation of the personal development industry. Most contemporary teachers in
this field credit this little book for providing foundation to their principles.
Allen uses simple, colorful prose and nature metaphor to relay the message that…Like
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The Survivor Personality
Why Some People Are More Likely to Survive
Every time you turn on the television, there's a tragedy: a hurricane, a forest
fire, or a shooting at a school. And for every tragedy, there are survivors –
wary and shaken, but alive and able to move on with their lives. What makes some
people more likely than others to survive life's most intense challenges? What
to the survivors have, that most of us don’t?...Like
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“Don't feel that way.”
You Feel What You Feel So why do some people try to change that?
Do you recall ever being told not to feel what you were feeling? It may have
left you wondering why you were told this, and why the other person thought it
wasn't acceptable for you to have those feeling?...Like
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Surviving a TINB
Teenager-Induced Nervous Breakdown
Teenagers are wonderful creatures. They were put on this earth to test us – but
we don't always make the grade. Sometimes we outright fail. Rare is the parent
who excels at this job, and most of us are mediocre at best – at least in our
teenager's eyes. However, you can survive a TINB (Teenager-Induced Nervous
Breakdown) by…Like
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Don't Let Life Run You Over
Empower Yourself Through Any Challenge
Sometimes, life's challenges can feel like someone knocked you down, ran you
over, then sued you for wrecking their car. You may not be sure how to get back
up again or whether you should even try…Like
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Diagnosis Heartbreak
When a Loved One is Diagnosed with a Serious Illness
Cancer. Alzheimer's. Stroke. Just to hear the words makes most of us cringe
with heartbreak. A serious illness is one of the greatest challenges any family
will face. With so many questions wrapped in a multitude of emotions, we often
don't know what to think or where to turn. When someone is diagnosed with a
serious or life-limiting illness...
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Self-Bonding
Taking Care of Your
Inner Child
Do you want to be Superman or Superwoman, able to shoulder big responsibilities
without flinching? It may surprise you that even though you are all grown up and
making your way in this world, deep inside your heart and mind there is a little
child who needs tenderness and love. As an adult, how you treat your "inner
child" plays a huge role in your life…Like
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What about the Kids?
Getting a Divorce without Hurting your Children
Hover over a family led by battling parents and what you'll likely see is a
dangerous war zone. The yelling and screaming. The fighting. The hurling of
objects. The pushing and hitting. The disgusting words. The constant bickering.
The sarcasm. No affection. No compliments. No interaction. So, are children
always worse off after a divorce?...Like
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Nice People Aren't Always Good
…and Good People Aren't Always Nice
From childhood, we're taught to be nice. Our mothers spent endless hours wagging
their fingers in our faces while saying, "Don't do that, it's not nice!" In our
culture, if a person is nice, then they're generally considered to be good as
well. But how does that account for those who smile pleasantly at us while
stabbing us in the back?...
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Welcome to your Crisis!
Ten Tested Tools for Turning Calamity into Calm
After 20 years of what seemed to be a perfect marriage, Linda's husband came out
as a gay man. With his one sentence, "I'm gay," their familiar, comfortable
suburban life turned upside down. She successfully made an abrupt turn into a
future that was totally different from what she'd planned. Whether it's a spouse
coming out, illness, death of a loved one, financial ruin, or one of countless
other human crises, you can turn calamity into calm by...Like
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Living the Positive Life
Think of a person or situation that would normally trouble you. Now imagine
being able to deal with this person or problem with ease, in a productive,
peaceful way. How would your life be changed? How would you feel if you were
able to approach life in an empowering manner? Well, you can…Like
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Regular Features
In This Issue:
60-Second Self
Bonkers Bits
Life is Funny
Bonkeroids
Take a Laugh Break
Bright Idea
Wacky Wisdom
Ask the Expert
Bonkers Eye Focus
Classic Self Help
And
much
more in this issue....
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